Finding love is hard for anyone but finding love when you are a geek? Now that adds a whole new level of awkward.
Trying to date outside the geek circle, aka trying to date a normie, can be hard and often frustration. It can be really hard to explain to someone why you love what you love, especially for nerds who often have hobbies and intrests that could be considered ‘childish’.
I’m not saying dating someone outside the geek circle is impossible, it can just be harder.
A growing trend at cons is the introduction of Geek Speed Dating.
The event first became popular at large American cons like Comic Con but the events were made even more popular after TLC aired the show ‘Geek Love’, which followed the experiences of one nerd per episode as they tried to find love at New York Comic Con. The show helped make Geek Speed Dating a popular event at many cons including Toronto Fan Expo, Anime North and Con-G.
Basically Speed Dating involves people sitting across from one another and engaging in 3 to 8 minute mini dates, which are basically just conversations. Throughout the event both parties write down who they like and if it’s a match you receive the other persons email address!
Most of the times Speed Dating is an 18+ event so you don’t have to worry about flirting with an underage geekling.
Geek Speed Dating is basically the same as any other form of speed dating except for the fact that everyone present are geeks!
But enough about what the event is. Now I am going to give some advice on what to do and not to do at Geek Speed Dating.
- Dress Appropriately: Now is not the time to break out your t shirt with inappropriate imagery or slogans. Yes it can sometimes be a conversation starter but it may scare some people off or send out the wrong message. I’m not saying you need to wear a tux or an evening gown but look presentable. Make sure you are well groomed and
- Keep the twins at home: I’m not saying you have to wear a turtleneck but ladies, wearing a low cut v-neck may make some guys nervous or other guys may prove to not really be interested in you for what you have to say when the twins are also on the date. Now is really not the time to break out your sexiest duds. Leave somethings to the imagination. This goes for guys as well. Showing up in a topless cosplay will get you attention but it may not be the attention you want.
- Don’t tell them your life story: These are very quick dates so the other person really doesn’t need to know that you had a cat named Spot when you were 6. Only share the basics so then the other person has time to talk as well
- Try not to interrupt: If you interrupt the other person too often, you may make them feel like what they are saying isn’t important or interesting. It’s okay to interrupt occasionally with comments like “Oh I like that too” or “Who is your favorite character” or even to ask questions but don’t interrupt to start your own story.
- Don’t corner people later: Basically this means do not corner people later at the con to ask who they wrote on their sheet. It comes off as pushy.
- Don’t question why someone likes what they like: This is just a general nerd rule, but it is especially important during speed dating
- Be positive: If you go in there thinking its going to be a hopeless failure it will be. Go in with an open mind and know that not everyone will fall head over heels for you.
- Understand that not everyone will like what you like: If you meet a guy or girl who doesn’t like what you like, don’t get too insulted or completely brush them off. You may have other things in common and you never know, you may convince them to go to the dark side.
- Decent handshake: Kind of like an interview, a decent handshake is important. No one likes a limp-noodle handshake but no one likes getting their hand crushed either. At the same time, not everyone will offer you a handshake, but don’t take it as an insult.
If you at least try to follow my guidelines your bound to have a good time. You won’t always meet your soul mate but you will meet some great people!
Have fun my geeky darlings!